This is
the last challenge that Jeff Goins gave to the people who joined his
#my500words challenge. I have to admit that I failed it because I haven’t
completed the 30 days. I just have at least 12 posts. 12/30, ha! But at least,
it encouraged me to write more. I may not have written on my blog everyday but
I have left more notes in my little notebook, in my journal, and my planner.
Whenever I think of something, I don’t hesitate to write it unlike last year
that I chose not to write what I think because I thought it is dumb.
I learned
to suck it up and face my fears. I was so afraid that the world might come and
get me but I realized that I should stop acting that way. Time to be braver. If
I want to write, I should believe in myself and practice more. I need to stop
comparing myself to others and stop thinking of not being good enough. Even if
my writing is far from perfect at least I am slowly learning from my mistakes.
Even if I
am late for the last challenge, I still want to do it. I always talk to people
who are close to me, email them every day , chat or tweet and say encouraging
things so I figured that I can write an encouraging post for someone who really
feels down today – to a frustrated/or depressed or lost twenty-somethings today.
Dear
whoever you are,
I don’t
know exactly what you are going through but I want you to know that I
understand if ever you are confused on where you really want to go. Maybe you
have a job or maybe you don’t have one yet. If you have one and still feel
lost, well been there, done that my friend. I really can’t say that go and
freakin’ leave. No, I won’t do that. I remember when I was also thinking of
leaving my first job – I was torn between my dream, my family, and my personal
finances. At that time, I was happy until I realized being happy is not enough.
Being JUST happy cannot pay the bills. So I decided I have to do something
about it. I have read and watched almost all the encouraging, most positive
articles and videos just to feel better. Or make myself at ease that I will not
make the wrong decision. I was so scared to leave because I’m holding on to
what they say "if
you’re happy then go for it…" Then
reality happened. Life happened. You’ll realize that life is not all about you.
There are many factors in being happy especially now that we are still young.
I really
want to give up at that time but when I watched this video of a famous
broadcaster...She said that if you are happy with what you do, money will
follow after you (okay, I’m not sure about this but it is something like
that..) then she took a pause and added, “But
is it applicable for everyone?” No.
She added that some are just lucky while others need to fight harder to achieve
their dreams. Don’t grieve and be disappointed for not being part of the
privileged ones. Do not mope and give up just because you are one of the people
who need to work harder. Instead, work hard, fight harder, and live more.
If you
really want to leave your job, leave… but make sure you know what you want to
do after. It will be better if before you send that resignation letter, you’ve
already figure it out. But, if you can’t figure it out yet, start by talking to
people who you know will never judge you on your decisions.
I
remember when I have this conversation with my brother, I told him that what if
my decisions will turn out to be mistakes? He said (with an annoyed face) so
what? If you’ll realize that you made the wrong choice then treat it as an
“experience.” Another advice I got is from a veteran photographer in the
fashion/entertainment industry, He asked me on why I will leave my job, I told
him some of my reasons (like greener pasture and I just want to take a break
from the media world). Then I suddenly felt the urge of asking him if I am
making the right decisions.. He told me that I
am just the one who can answer it and how can I tell if I am wrong or right
when I haven’t done it yet? He told me that I am still young and go do
the things I want to do.
Well,
there are so many encouraging things that we can relate too but not all of them
are applicable in our lives. Just pick out the best that you can relate to.
Never
ever give up. Allow yourself to grow by making your own decisions. Because at
the end of the day, it is your life. Go and do what you want, you freakin’ twenty-something!
Make mistakes “Make a lot of them, because there's no better way to
learn and to grow, all right?” –Jen Lindley, Dawson’s Creek
Love,
Kit
